Here's a recent exchange between a member on this site and me. I'm not sure how he read the "tone" he did into what I wrote to him since I'm always polite, but here's exactly what you should NOT do when approaching me.

 

jabys (http://diapermates.com/jabys) has sent you a message!
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hi I am interested in getting together with you. How do you have someone thats like me adult baby. Do you charge or what do you do? Your add got me excited. Just the way you put it together you got me going. Hope to here from you.

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Me: Well, the ad kind of says it all, don't you think? :)

Nursery time is x/hr

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OK you didk't have to be nasty about it.

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Me: I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about, but if you're sensitive enough to react that way when I simply answered your question we are not a good match. Good luck.

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Then why did you say you have no idea what I am talking about. Yet you answered anyway. But you are right about one thing cuz if thats the way you treat every one, then I can imagin what you would treat me like in ur nursery,if you have one. But I wish you the best...

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Me: I responded because I was, and still am, genuinely perplexed by your reaction to the point where I wondered if you were writing to the wrong person.

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No more to the point, your very rude to me and I never have seen anything in ur add, that says anything about what you want for a session nor dos it say any thing about nursery time. So you must be very busy with such a charming additude.

 

I've taken to every once in a while wetting or messing my pants to get the feeling close to what its like to go in a diaper, since i'm not in a situation to have diapers and won't be for at least a few months.

I need to be careful though as I could leave stains and that would be bad, I also don't want to ruin my cute adult clothes! This is getting serious, I *need* to go back into diapers soon, or something!

I'm going to post a picture of my wet panties in the next few days. Maybe on me...but I don't like when people can see the "bulge."

 

Contemplative Panda.

 

I was playing rockband yesterday and the drum stopped registering my playing.  I COULDN'T EVEN PAUSE THE GAME OR ANYTHING!!!  So I ended up FAILING the song I was playing.  I NEVER FAIL!!!  I was so angry that I actually knocked the drum kit over and threw the sticks down.  At least I was thinking enough to NOT launch them through the tv.  In the heat of the moment it felt good to react like that, but I'm lucky I didn't break anything.  That would be an expensive price to pay for my temper, and not the first time I have learned that lesson.  After I had about an hour to calm down (I was still slightly pissed off), I thought about it "logically" and decided to check the batteries.  They were DEAD.  I replaced the batteries, but I guess I will stick to guitar because it still irks me think about it.

I wish people would write longer profiles, and include face pictures in their profiles and just generally use this site more to its fullest capability. I know why people don't post face pictures, but I think it is silly. Just as long as there is no google-able name trace to your picture you are safe. I get tired of seeing just a bunch of diapered torsos. Don't get me wrong, I love diapers and definitely think a picture of a diapered torso belongs on this site, in fact once I get some diapers on my bum, there is going to be a picture of my diapered bum in my photo album.

 

Also about profiles, what is with just single sentence profiles (and single sentence messages for that matter!). If you don't tell me about yourself then you might as well just be some creepy guy in a van offering me candy. I know lots of you say you are an open book and that if I wanted to know something about you just ask, but thats a pretty lazy way of going about it and makes me disinterested right away. I'm here to get to know people and make friends, it would be nice if you took advantage of what the internet brings over a bar and actually give me clues as to wether we will get a long. I will do the same and fill out my profile (like I have done!) and we can both have a little to go on when entering conversation. Knowing what a person finds important about themselves is a big key to understanding them, if you just put a single sentence I'm going to think you are a very sad self-hating person and want to stay away.

So in conclusion, be a good neighbor, be a good friend, make a nice complete little profile! Don't be a creepy guy in a van offering me candy! I don't take candy from strangers! :-P

Hi,

I am a unique and loving person. I'm witty, dedicated and fun. I am also a wettie girl and a lesbian. Sometimes that is hard as other girls do not find my especially attractive and don't relate to me liking to wet at all.

Ok, so what is a "wettie" girl? Well, for me it is a life long fetish in that I get exceited by holding it and peeing in inappropraite places often including in my pants. I love staging "acciednts" and want someone into this and spanking as well for when I am bad. I also like being put into diapers and not allowed to go to the bathroom. I like dressing and being a baby too and being nursed.

Sometimes I wonder if any one can love me for who I am and will want me in their arms all the time. It is a shame too because I have so much to give. I am loving and fun, very dedicated to my partner and more than willing to make their life fun and complete.

Hugs,

Precious

     While many of us love to wear diapers, day and night, most of us have no actual medical need for a diaper. While at times, we may wish to become completely incontinent most of us are not sure we want to take that leap. But, waking up in the morning with a wet diaper does sound very appealing and provides an adequate reason to continue our diapering, aside from the simple love of a diaper. But how? How do you untrain yourself to wet the bed again? Keep reading.

     I first started wearing diapers on a regular basis a few years ago. It started with a diaper here and there, and then moved to a diaper at bed every night. Realizing I loved waking every morning wearing a thick disposable I decided I wanted an actual need to wear diapers at night; I wanted to wet the bed again. I started getting used to wetting my diapers during the day. While it certainly got easier to wet during the day I had no luck wetting at night. Then, I realized that wetting while standing is very different from wetting while lying down. The secret is to get used to wetting your diaper while lying in bed.  So, before bed every night I drink a liter of water. If I wake during the night and need to go, I don't get out of bed or change my postion before wetting. After a couple of nights of waking up prior to wettng, I started waking during the wetting, and now I wake up in the morning with a thick and soggy diaper!  Perfect.  

lately, i have been trying to figure out the roots of my interest in this ab/dl lifestyle. i cant even say the words seperately... adult, baby? its just so odd. i am just wondering, how do any f you find this so easy to accept? maybe its because im young or possibly the circumstances that caused my interest in it but i still cant seem to face it the way i would like to. i was talking to a friend a few days ago and told him about it. since then, i cant stop thinking about how much i regret doing so. he was completely nice about it- even went on to say that he thinks its cute... but i just seem to see something so wrong with this and i cant put my finger on it /: or maybe im just my own worst critic, i dont know. im rambling now. all i know is that i want a daddy who will help me adjust into this- take it slow with me. let me know that its ok to feel the way i do and its fine for me to let go of all my normal responsibilities just to be cared for by him. a daddy who will hold me and play with my hair until i fall asleep- one who will just make me not feel so ashamed i suppose. sorry for the poor writting skills, im not in much of a mood to try and make anything sound awesome right now nor do i care about punctual and grammatical errors. haha.

Tommorow i''m going to a Very Kind Fem Domme named Lady Kimber. She has decided to start my Formal Training tomoorow. If things go well, i have been Promised an opportunity to become a full time Diaper Sissy for Her. i''m so Nervous i can''t stand it. i''ve been looking for a Disciplinarian to Dominate, and Humiliate me to no end. i''ll give everybody an update tomorrow. Wish me luck. Hugs & Kisses - Diaper Sissy Georgina mopswell

I am looking for mommies and babies to form a makeshif family and have fun.

So today out of nowhere, I had an honest to gosh, didn't plan it, didn't want it to happen, accident. i wet my pants. I was just holding it while I was packing and moving. I was running up some stairs and all of the sudden my urinary sphincter gave out and I was full on pissing myself in my jeans! I guess I really do need diapers! Hmm, I guess its the power of wishful thinking.

 

Food for thought, food for thought.

OK people. I told you last year that UGGs were awful and ugly and not to be worn with shorts and/or skirts. But did you listen? NO. For some reason, people are still wearing Ugg boots and strutting around like they''''re wearing Christian Louboutins. May I remind you that you aren''''t and you probably bought your Uggs not because they are comfy and easy to wear, but because everyone and their sorority sister has them. Let''''s try to be a little unique people.

I long to find a woman who knows and understands what a baby girl like me needs. Mommy would make me wear diapers and treat me like her special baby girl. Mommy regresses me with diapers, breast feeding, pacifiers, baby bottles. When I''m naughty Mommy will give my bottom or my peepee spankings, make me put my nose in the corner, sometimes while on my hands and knees with my bottom in the air so she can get a good look at my freshly spanked bottom. Sometimes Mommy would play with my clitty and peepee when she changes my diapers.....it tickles and I like it...Mommy might even teach me how to make my peepee wet without even peeing. Mommy will sometimes spread her legs and let baby see her big girl panties....she may even pull them down and let her baby girl see her big girl peepee and let baby girl kiss it and touch it. Mommy loves to play with her baby girls peepee, butthole and clitty alot and has so many lessons to teach her little girl....she may even need to give me an enema if she sees fit. Mommy tells her baby girl that "Mommy always knows what''s best!"

So do you wear cloth or disposible...there are advantages to both but I would love to know your feelings on what is better to use to avoid diaper rash and to keep all my little ones drier....so send me your ideas or suggestions on what works the best and also remember that I am available for those special diaper changes that you need...All calls are discreetly billed as “Madison Enterprise” All calls from the US and Canada are 1.99/min 2.50 connection fee 1-888-938-7382 All International call are 2.50/minute 2.00 connection fee 011-1-714-442-2402

itas all started when i was 9 years old. i was at the girls house arcoss the street playing when she asked me if i wanted to see something. saying yes she brought me into her parents bed room where they had diapers for her. she told me that she had to wear them to bed at night. being young and dumb i said cool. at that point is when she asked if i have to and i said, No. she asked if i wanted to try one on with her. not knowing ant better i said sure. she showed me hos to put one on by putting hers on the she helped me put mine on. from there it was done. i would sneek diapers as often as i could my whole life until i moved out at 19. i have buying and wearing ever since.

As an American I am very proud of our hockey team. Having said that I want to congratulate Canada on their Olympic Gold! Ir was hard fought. well earned and much deserved. Cpngratulations Canada! :)

I''ve been on the site for a while i started the account some time ago and I swear I really have never talked to any one on here i mean what the hell? I started this account to meet ppl or at the very least talk to ppl who enjoy diapers. But i cant even find ppl that will chat with me. Its not like I''m strictly looking for a long term relationship or even to meet some one in real life, I''ll take an online friendship. I''m not looking for any one specific and I STILL can''t find any one. My standards are not that high I just don''t like poop that''s all. In real life I can''t talk to ppl about this because they would never understand or they''d think I some sort of sick fucked up freak. I don''t even try to find a girlfriend any more just from the fear that I would fall for her hard and then find out she is not okay with me wearing diapers (which come on thats more than very likely) I mean most girls out side of the diaper scene are not willing to try some thing like wearing a diaper or being in a relationship with some one who dose. But the thing is I''m BI I''ll take a gay diaper guy or a sissy just the same, so my options are open... but even then I can''t find any one. So what do I do? I mean I see ppl in my regular life and they ask me "whats wrong? you look so sad" and I want to say "I''m incredibly depressed". But I know if I say that I then can''t tell them the truth about me wearing diapers and how I can''t find any one who will accept me for who I am. The solution from the "average" person would then be about me seeking metal help for my diaper love. But thats not what I want, I like wearing diapers... well in fact no I think I LOVE wearing diapers. The one time I told a person that I liked (I thought I loved), that I wore diapers was when I pretended to be some one else. This was some one I already knew but at this point in my life I had stop talking to her. So all I did was be my self but add in that I like wearing diapers. She thought it was strange but interesting. After a while she even wanted to try wearing with me. Problem was she thought i was some one else. She wanted to meet me and was super excited to wear diapers. I felt awful building some ones hopes like that i was truly one of the worst feelings. So I then told her I wasn''t who she thought I was. She was surprised and sad. I really felt like such an asshole... I never told her who I really was. But here''s the thing as my self as my real self she had stop talking to me way before this and stop being my friend she never even told me why. But you see its like ppl are fine with it just not fine with me wearing diapers. Or they like my personality and they have my same likes but they dislike me. Does that make sense? Right now im wearing an ultra thick bambinos diaper that i wet, and I am so delighted to be in them but at the same time i almost fell like i wish i never liked wearing diapers because it seems like it''s made my life so much harder and yet I know it relaxes me, calms me down when things get bad, they makes me very happy to wear them it almost complete euphoria. I''m stuck in a catch 22.

On a long trip to PA from NJ,my Daddy Dom had me belted into the middle of the back seat in just a tee shirt,diapers and plastic pants. My diaper started to leak so I told that to Daddy,I thought he would give me my shorts to put on and stop at a rest stop to change me in a restroom stall. I was shocked when he got very mad and pulled the car over to the side of the road.He got out and opened the back door took off my seatbelt and layed my down on the seat. Then he jerked my plastic pants down to my ankles and opened my diaper. He grabbed my feet and pushed them up in the air to lift my but and he pulled the diaper out and replaced it with a new one. There were cars going by and I was so scared someone would call the police. then he wiped me with a baby wipe,put on lotion and powder again with my feet pushed to the roof of the car. Just then two guys rode by on bikes and one of them tooked right down at me and when he did I felt myslf geting hard,humiliation does that to me. He must have liked waht he saw because they turned ariund and came back. Daddy covered me with the diaper but did not stick the tabs. The guys on the bikes pretended to ask daddy directions but were peeking at me. They started uo a conversation and daddy introduced himself and me as his pee pee pants diaper boy. They were all smiles and one guy had a buldge in his bike shorts. He asked if he could take some pics with his phone and Daddy said sure.Daddy stuck my pacifier in my mouth and pulled the diaper open so they could get a good look.They were both talking pics,my face turned beet red because my face was in the pics and I wondered where the picks would be posted and if my friends and family and the people at work would see them,the thought of being outed as a diaper boy made me get hard again so much so Daddy hade a hard time closing the diaper. Daddy got there e-mail and said he would send them more pics.One of the guys asked if he could have a diaper he said he wanted to diaper the other guy when they got home. I love diaper humiliation and the fear of getting caught.

Tonight I decided to get some more diapers (I currently wear disposable because they are easy to get and don''t need to be mailed to me). I bought them at Wegman''s and then went to the Wal-Mart nearby to buy a plastic mattress cover and some diet soda (best for making you pee). I decided to put on a diaper before going to Wal Mart so that I could finally wear in public (late at night but still counts). As I wandered around looking for the plastic bed sheet I started wetting a bit (I had been holding it in for a while and really needed to go). Thankfully no leaking but it felt great being out and about while wearing and wetting without anyone noticing. Maybe one day I''ll go out during the day, maybe to the mall or something.

i would love to be treated as a baby,spanking washed,pouder,bottle,diaper,ect.

i love wearing diapers as much as i can. I like to be diaper punished and humiliated. I sometimes have to open my mouth and have a soiled diaper rubbed all over my face when im naughty. My dream would be to have a scat mistress

 

Take charge AMERICA

 

I'm a 54 soon to be 55 year old man who has had a job since I was 14 years old. That means I've been paying taxes 41 soon to be 42 years. While I understand that everyone HAS to pay them, I'm still wondering why or if I should.

It seems OUR country is going through this financial crunch and WE are the ones paying for it, bailing out AIG, General Motors, and the entire list that all of us have seen on the news. Now our kids, grand kids & great grand kids will be paying for that too. I don't know about the rest of you, but I don't feel that this at all fair to us or the generations that follow us.

Now you need to understand I don't blame our government for ALL that has happened because they are just the ones we all seem to point our fingers at. I do believe that we as AMERICANS are the cause of everything because as consumers we don't seem to be buying AMERICAN goods. If you drive an import car, own a television or anything else that has been imported into OUR country from somewhere else, then WE'RE all GUILTY of contributing to the collapse.

We work here, live here and pay our taxes here, so why are we sending OUR money elsewhere? AIG, General Motors and the rest of them that OUR government is bailing out with OUR money is just wrong! If the CEO's of those companies ran them into the ground and headed them for failure, then they should have ALL failed! Our government wouldn't bail us out if we just made bad choices with our credit, or if we didn't pay our taxes. As a matter of fact, if we don't pay our taxes they send in the IRS agents and take everything we own away from us! Why didn't they do that with all these companies? OUR government should have taken control of them and sold off everything to pay the creditors, let the doors close and say good bye to them.

What would have been lost? Yes, the jobs of course would be gone and that would mean our government would lose more tax revenue from us poor working stiffs. So what! Our government needs a WAKE UP CALL! So do all those companies that don't know how to manage their assists, they've been making billions over the years so where is all that money?

If we as a people don't wake up soon and tell OUR government NO MORE, they will continue to rape us of everything and everyone in this entire country will be homeless. If we as a people keep buying foreign goods, AMERICA will no longer be the richest country in the world.  And do you really believe that any other country will bail out our country? I don't think so! What it will do is cause unrest in this country and then we will be primed for a hostile takeover by any country with enough military power and money that wants this beautiful land we all call home. America, OUR home, the land of the free and the brave, but for how long?

WAKE UP AMERICA! Take charge of your own life, buy AMERICAN goods and keep OUR money here where it belongs. Keep AMERICA rich, healthy & FREE! We've earned it, fought for it, died for it & if you really want to be an AMERICAN, take charge and let OUR GOVERNMENT know that we are NOT happy with the way things are being done and make them change it!

 

We can only do this if we all stand up together. Like all changes is this country, it starts as a grass roots effort then snow balls until the powers that be finally listen. Although not paying your taxes is against the law, maybe it's time to do so to let them know we do want a change, just not the one that President Obama campaigned for!

 

Working stiff,

FINALLY, with 3 days of antibiotics in me, I am getting better.  I'm starting to feel like my old self.  Look out world!!!  When I got up from my nap, I imagine the Devil said, "OH CRAP!!!  She's up." LOL!!!  I actually want to eat something, WOO HOO!!!  Don't get me wrong, I still have a little bit of a cough and a runny nose, but it's a far cry from how I was feeling just 24 hours ago.  I just have to tough out a few more days worth of pills (and I WILL whine and complain about it).  When I talk, I sound like an actual human being.  My nose was so stuffed up that I sounded like Elmer Fudd, lol.  What else can I say. . . SO HAPPY!!!  YEAH FOR ME!!!  LA LA LA NO MORE SICKY ICKY LA LA LA!!!

For some people in the AB/DL community being secretly diapered in public is something they do very often. For others it''s something that they simply won''t do. They are simply mortified. terrified. whatever you want to call it. "What if someone notices"? Now I''m not talking about wearing any baby gear but simply wearing a diaper under yout street clothes. If the scene is new for you. I can understand this fear as I''ve been there. This blog is meant as a sort og reassurance for those who siffer from this fear. I''ve worn diapers under my clpthes many many times in very public and even crowded places and have never even once suspected anyone even might have noticed. Now. if you WANT to be noticed there are many ways (Suntle amd not) to have this jappen. As for ME I prefer diaper discertion and not to make it anyone else''s business. Thr point being that almost everyone is so wrapped up in what they''re doing they wpm''t notice your padded bottom. And if someone IS looking for diapers under clothing then they''re going to be part of the AB/DL commimity in some fashion and aren''t going to have a oroblem with it whatsoever.So dpn''t fear exposure or ridicile. Wetting or messing in public is a different matter however...Wet diapers are usually safe...providing you don''t flood and leak..and...well...messy diapers are obvious to anyone with a nose! So. enjoy your diapers ar the grocery. shopping mall, and ESPECIALLY at the movies when you order the large drink or see something with a long runtime! (Just consider plastic oanrs as a safety precaution!)

I just finished reading a member''s blog post and it made me somewjat sad and got me to rhinking about the less pleasant side of being part of the AB/DL community. Namely for rhe most part. finding common ground with a partner sucks. Period. I had a woman that claimed to love me. We were married and when she discovered my diaper desires she flipped. Completely. I am in a good part responsible because I kept this part of myself a secret and shpuld have tpld her before we were married and I accept this mistake as my ewsponsibility. However there''s a part of me that always wondered how she couldn''t accept me. I was the same man she fell in love with and married but when I finally "came out of the diaper closet" she called me sick and deviant and berated me for hours. We tried ro work through it but our marriage was doomed frpm that day. I don''t say this to get sympathy but to explain my past experiences. And just because someone wears diapers doesm''t guarantee instant happiness either. I dated an AB girl and a DL girl as well...one had issues and baggage of her own that led to her being unfaithful and ending out relationship and while the DL I dated and I had fun a few times ir never really was mpre than 2 lpnely people having some fun. Millions of non-diaper relationships end the same way. So dating and relarionships are hard...diapered one''s doubly so. It''s also very hard to talk about diapers and AB/DL themed problems and thoughts wuth just anyone. I am fotunate to have one good friend who knows and doesn''r judge me. Many of us don''t have even that to lean on fron rime ro time. If you have such a person in your life count your blessings. So...all things considered...sometimes the person in the diaper isn''t going to be the happiest person you''ll ever meet...but we all need to hang in there...

With wedding budgets ever tightening, there is a growing market for pre-loved discount wedding dresses. Some brides want to keep their wedding dress as a reminder of their special day, but others feel it’s a waste to have such a beautiful gown collecting dust in the back of the wardrobe If your discount wedding dress is still in perfect condition after the wedding, you could get around half of the original value by selling it on. Knowing you are going to sell your dress after the wedding could mean the difference between being able to buy that gorgeous but pricey designer gown you have your eye on, and settling for the cheaper alternative which just doesn’t feel as special. Selling your wedding gown online is becoming the most popular option and will make sure your cheap prom dresses is visible to a wide audience. Alternatively you could try a store that sells pre-loved wedding dresses; they will either pay you for it and sell it on, or sell it on your behalf and take a commission. A final alternative would be to sell your dress to a gown rental store. Some mother of the bride dresses sell more easily than others. If you are wearing a modern gown that will go out of fashion quickly, you will need to sell it as soon as possible after your wedding. If you sell your flower girl dresses while it is still fashionable, modern styles generally sell quickly; within three to six months. Timeless styles will always sell well, but may take a little longer, perhaps six to twelve months. Mid priced dresses often sell very quickly, while very expensive or fairly cheap gowns usually take longer. Medium sized dresses will tend to sell better than very large or very small sizes. If your dress is suitable for alteration, you can mention this in your description

So I finally had the opportunity to try an adult disposable that I''d heard good things about for the first time. I must say I think I''m ready to place my order! Unique Wellness is the name of the diaper. It''s my ubderstanding that it was primarily used in nursing homes and is now available by mail ordwe. It''s somewhat simjilar to the Tranquity ATN diaper in construction and design. It has the PLASTIC outer cover that I so strongly prefer. 4 tapes and inner leak guards. It''s a sturdy well made diaper and far from cheap but I decided I''d put it throygh a rigorous test. I was quite pleased! It held yp to about 5 heavy wettings before I felt there was danger of leakage. It''s pretty thick. so perhaps not the most discreet brand our rhere however it was very comfy and very absorbent. I''d give it a very strong recommendation for those who like a thick. sturdy disposable.

I have not been aware of the ABDL community for very long. I have always been facinated by diapers and as far back as I can remember I have been wearing diapers and getting caught by my parents through out my childhood. I always thought that I was alone, that I had found something I loved that was of very taboo behavior. I remember my parents always scolding me and saying that they were going to send me to counceling if I did not stop where but for some reason that never stopped me. I grew up and moved away and when I was in a place where I couldn''''t wear diapers I began to crave them bad. Spending all of my free time looking at sites that sold adult diapers. Then I found in google images a bunch of pictures of adult babies and diaper lovers wearing diapers. My mind was blown. That led to finding sites that tapered to this specific feddish and I came to realize what a big deal this whole thing was and that there were many others like me. I have no interest in becoming a baby again.... although the thought has crossed my mind a couple of times of how easy that life would be. I just love to wear diapers every chance I can. I find it so exilerating to go to the store in them. Meet my friends in them ( though they don''''t know) and just wear them in my free time. I came across the deeker website and his program to become incontinent. Since then I have been fanticizing over this topic and putting alot of time thinking about it. In my line of work it would never work out but that still does not stop me from wanting it. I pee with no problems. I poop in diapers easily. How cool would it be for it to just happen automatically. Just the thought of redefining myself as incontinent gives me such a thrill. Just how could I tell people that i am. There are alot of cons to the idea that do in some ways outweigh the pros. But something is still driving me to want to go for it. I have downloaded numberous hypnosis files and have listened to a few of them. Should I or shouldn''''t I?????

Hottenstein’s clothed body, appearing wet from being in the water, was found by a passerby on Sunday morning, Feb.15, at approximately 7:35 a.m. at the street end on 42nd Place at the Sea Isle City Marina. A thorough and comprehensive investigation began into the circumstances of Hottenstein’s death by members of the Cape May Prosecutor’s Office and the Sea Isle City Police Department. Additional resources were requested from the Cape May County Sheriff’s Department Canine Unit to conduct a search of the area, as well as the New Jersey State Police TEAMS Unit and Middle Township Police Department to complete a search of the water for articles of clothing worn by Hottenstein. The investigation to date includes dozens of interviews, sworn statements; review of numerous hours of video recordings from multiple sources, and the review of information obtained from court authorized warrants. The investigation determined Hottenstein was last seen exiting the Ocean Drive Bar and Restaurant located at 3915 Landis Avenue, Sea Isle City at approximately 2:15 a.m. on Feb. 15 and appears to have walked southbound on Landis Avenue. Hottenstein was wearing a black long sleeved top, dark blue jeans, tan Ugg boots, a pink plaid hat, and pink scarf. The hat and one of the boots was subsequently recovered from the water in the area of the marina. Still missing are Hottenstein’s scarf and one of the boots. Hottenstein’s cell phone, purse and vest were left in the Ocean Drive Bar and Restaurant and retrieved by detectives. After consideration and review of all of the available facts, the cause of death was determined to be “Hypothermia due to exposure complicating acute alcohol intoxication” with the manner ruled as accidental. The weather where Hottenstein was found on Sunday morning during the period from 2:15am to 7:35 a.m. reached a low air temperature of 31°F, wind speed up to 10 mph with gusts up to 12 mph from the NNE, wind chill calculated at 21°F, and the water temperature reached a low of 35°F, according to the records obtained from the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration. The investigation is continuing to gain answers to questions that remain as to the circumstances surrounding how Hottenstein arrived in the area of the marina. All known witnesses of the events leading to Hottenstein’s discovery on the morning of Feb. 15, have been interviewed. The last interview occurred during the week of May 4. The Prosecutor’s Office and Sea Isle city Police Department continue to request the public’s assistance to determine her whereabouts after leaving the Ocean Drive Bar and Restaurant. Prosecutor Taylor and Sea Isle City Police Chief Thomas D’Intino encourage anyone who saw Hottenstein after 2:15 a.m. on Feb.15, to contact the Cape May County Prosecutor’s Office Major Crimes Unit at 609-465-1135 or the Sea Isle City Police Department at 609-263-4311.

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One hot night last summer,it must have been a full moon,I just got the idea in my head to put on a diaper under shorts and go to a gay bar. I''m not gay and have never been to a gay bar but I just had the need to let people see me in diapers. As I thought about it my face stared to get all warm and red. I quickly put on a diaper and my short little gym shorts,like in high school. Then I slit the legs on the side a few inches then few more soon they were slit halfway up then I slit them on the inside too.Now my diapers were clearly visable from the sides and when I sat down and spread my legs you could look right up my crouch and see the diapers big buldge. My heart was racing I did not know what to expect,I thought there would be a lot of guys talking to me and asking me about the diapers but they just staired at me. I sat at the bar drinking beer and wetting myself sometimes turning around to give a good view of my diapers.It seems there is only a very small percentage of gay men into diapers,they are older,the young guys are only looking for sex. I decided to walk over to the mens room in hopes someone would talk to me. When I stood up I found that my soaked diaper was super heavy and I did not make it tight enough so it started slipping down pulling my shorts down. I was pretty drunk and the thought of my pants falling down in the bar made me hard,humiliation makes me hard anyway. I let them slip down halfway then i had to pull them up. The bathoom was very small.no stall,just a toliet and sink and to my surprise no lock on the door. I thought this is good I would let someone walk in on me with my shorts down adjusting the tabs on my diaper,and If they hold the door open people sitting at the bar could look right in and see me too.I put my back to the door and opened my diaper on both sides at once letting the back fall down and waited,it did not take long,I heard the door open and pretended I did not. This big black guy came in and I acted startled and tryed to put the tapes on the right side letting the leftside fall open so he could look down and see my toddeler size pee pee.I was blocking the toilet so he just stood there watching,then he asked if I need a hand. I said yes please that I was kind of drunk and having a hard time. He told me to hold the back of the diaper up with both hands and he would get the front. He pulled the front out and took a good look then closed it up and stuck the tabes. He then tryed to take a pee but was half hard and could not go so he started to ask me why I was in diaper. I said because I am a pee pee pants diaper boy. He said yes you are and your a bad boy for wetting yourself. This made him harder and he was huge. He put it away and asked if he could buy me a beer and hear how I got into diapers. We walked back to where he was sitting back behind the bar. The diapers were still sagging down and I prayed the tapes did not let go. There was no stool for me so I had to stand,pulling my diapers up to keep them from falling to my knees.He had me tell my story(see my profile)He had a few shots and made me have one. Then he started to feel my crouch and squish it around getting me hard.I was just happy to be telling someone what a diaper boy I was. It was getting late and we were the only ones behind the bar the rest of the guys in the bar could only see me from the waist up. I wanted to sit but he wanted me standing to he could grab my ass. The more I told him about how my mother exposed,spanked and humilited me the hotter he got. Then he got all dominant and scolded me,he said put your hands on the bar and dont move them and he put his big hand over my hands holding them down to the bar.I could feel my diapers slipping and I got so hard knowing i had no contol to pull them up.They fell all the way to my ankles and I was standing there as hard as a rock and he was stroking my dick. The fear that someone might walk around the bar and catch me naked and hard along with the feeling of being dominated and exposed just like when I was in high school was too much and I shot my load all the way to the bar.Then the guy stood up smacked my on the ass causing heads to turn and he walked out the door leaving me there dripping. I stood there for a while then removed my soaked diaper pulled up my shorts and rolled up the wet diaper and carried it out to the dumpster. The guy left because I made it clear that I was not going to give him a BJ or anal so he got all he was going to get so he looking elsewhere. I was very happy I did not get arrested. I have never gotten up the nerve to go back to that or any gay bar since,I could never top that anyway.That was just one of thoes crazy nights,you know how diaper fetishes ebb and flow. One day you are throwing all your diaper away the next day you are running out on the field at Yankee Stadium in just a soaked diaper and plastic pants,lol.

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I figured I would try to write something about my ideas of what got me interested in diapers. I realize this is all backwards rationalization. I know I got interested in diapers, and now I am trying to come up with a logical reason for that fascination. Obviously I might remember some event in my life that seems relevant, but perhaps has nothing to do with this fetish. Financial forecasters try to explain past market behavior by interpreting events of the past, but their inability to accurately prognosticate proves their lack of understanding. Similarly, I know I cannot predict based on someone''s childhood that they will develop an interest in diapers. It is quite possible that simply watching a diaper commercial with the right actress did more to trigger my desires than any actual event in my life. I cannot conduct any experiments... but I am hoping by writing about these things I might be able to connect with people that have had similar experiences. To begin with, my interest in diapers was very different when it developed from what it is now. I became interested in diapers as a young child, perhaps around the age of 4 or 5. Currently, I am interested in diapering women and the interest definitely has a sexual component. I do realize this shift happened during puberty and prior to that I was interested in being diapered myself and it was a source of comfort. So, to understand my interest, I need to begin there. Since diapers seem to represent a source of nurturing and affection, I am tempted to conclude that perhaps my interest developed from a lack of affection in my youth. My parents were not bad people. They did things that they felt were in my best interest. However, they were both repressed and rather cold people. One of the things I distinctly remember from my childhood is my parents'' desire to create a sense of shame about our bodies. My parents would tell me that sexual organs were dirty and disgusting. (Granted, many parents say similar things to tell get their children to not run around naked... but saying they were disgusting is probably stronger than simply telling children that nudity is inappropriate around other people.) Perhaps as a youth I saw children in diaper commercials being changed and I noticed the changer never looked at their naked bodies as something disgusting, but rather as simply something requiring care. Could this have started my fetish? I also remember as a young child my mother babysat a toddler. I was maybe 4 years old at the time, and the girl was about 2 and still in diapers. Whenever she needed to be changed, my mother would lock the door and keep me out. A diaper change was apparently something that I could not be a witness to... perhaps this exclusion made it seem special in my mind? Perhaps I thought that in those private moments the child received the affection I did not receive? Granted, many people probably had similar experiences without developing a diaper fetish. Perhaps there was just something in me that felt this need to be loved and not ashamed and for some reason I associated that with diapers. Of course, other things happened to me as well... but I doubt that those created this interest. Growing up, we only had one bathroom, and I remember as a child often having to wait for an hour until my father came out. Waiting, desperate to pee, using the bathroom perhaps had negative connotations for me? I also remember hating to use public restrooms. I would never use a urinal... after all, what if someone saw me? My body was something to be ashamed of... even in a stall, the notion of doing something so private in the vicinity of others created fear in my mind. I would often endure uncomfortable waits to use the bathroom at home rather that go anywhere in public. I overcame those issues as I got older, but perhaps they also contributed to the desire to revert to a state when bathrooms weren''t a source of concern. There were other events, but I cannot say with any certainty what caused my fascination. I just know by the time I was 4 or 5 I was already going to sleep thinking comforting thoughts about being diapered by a young woman. Throughout my childhood I would always try to discretely look whenever a diaper commercial came on television or I walked down the diaper isle in the supermarket. The look, the feel, and idea of diapers all created an intense desire within me. Does it matter where this desire came from? Probably not. Even knowing the cause would likely not alter my current state. But perhaps others have had similar experience and perhaps having had those shared experience we can relate to each other better.

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Well I''ve been thinking a lot about my life lately, and have realized that my life kinduh sucks. Right now I''ve got no job, no phone, I''m living at home, Haven''t got a drivers licence, or vehicle, I''m living in a pretty small town, and no one in town is hiring at all. The nearest town is 5 miles away, and the only way I have of getting to another town to find a job is to walk because I can''t find anyone who will give me a ride. All in all, I''ve been living here for 21 years, and it sucks cause every day''s just the same old thing. That''s pretty much what ya get when ya move to a small farming town, but right now I''m really wanting to get out of here, and live some where else. However I''ve also realized that it''s not where you live that determines how your life is, but what you do with your life while you''re living it. I mean sure I could sit here, bored, broke, and lonely, or I could take my sour lemons, and squeeze the living hell out of em until they die, and I have some thing sweet that I''ll enjoy for as long as it lasts. So I think that I''ll take the lemons that I have, and slowly squeeze the livin hell out of em one by one, until there''s nothing left, but sweet sweet lemonade.

I know there are eight million other men on this site who want the exact same thing, but I''m not afraid to make it eight million and one: I want a woman to take care of me and be my mommy. I am male, 24 years old, 5''7", brown hair/blue eyes and live in southern California. Can *anyone* make this happen? Does anyone know of any women who are really maternal and like taking care of people? I am fucking desperate. I have no hope and am depressed... I need a mommy, I need to be loved. It isn''t about diapers, its about real human contact, comforting, caring and love, and I desperately, desperately need some right now.

Just got back after a little drive around including a couple of store stops, wearing one of the diapers and plastic pants under jeans. I''d forgotten how ''loud'' it can seem to ones'' self and how bulky they can feel, even though these aren''t the nice molicare or cloth diapers. Driving around and doing little pee spurts at red lights was interesting, and difficult. Then of course waddling around the stores having peed a bunch by that time. Ahh, liberation until the landlord returns.

As of the first day, my landlady went over the "rules of the house." Basic rules which are as follows:

1. No pooping. If you need to poop, ask to use a toilet.
2. Bedtime is 8:30, unless work/school prohibits otherwise. You are to be diapered- no changes or using the restroom for the night. Locking plastic pants will be worn to enforce that rule.
3. Around the house, your diaper must be visible at all times so that I can check it.
4. Recreational activities must be okayed by me.

The rules were quite strict, and not to my liking, but punishments would be worse. I was fine with Rule #1, but Rule #2 smarted. Last night at 8:30, I was all dressed up for the night- just a white T-Shirt and my locked-up diaper. I was hardly tired. Usually I''d go to bed near midnight, or around 11:00, so I was given sleepy-time tea: lots of it, with extra caffiene. It put me out fast, but I woke up at 10:40 with a strong urge to pee. I tried to hold it, but I only lasted until 11:45, at which point, I couldn''t hold it any longer. My legs were crossed, and I pushed down, but to no avail. I suppose it would''ve made more sense to just let it go, but I didn''t want to wet my diaper. After 20 minutes of fidgeting and squirming to stop peeing, I managed to stop. I still felt that strong urge, and I was in desperate need of a change. I waddled upstairs to find the landlady.

She was not in the least bit happy to see me at that hour. She barely opened her eyes and looked at me...the shame was unbearable. "I need a change," I said, looking at the floor, trying to avoid her gaze. Suddenly that urge caught up with me, and I lost control again. Not in front of her... I thought, squirming and crossing my legs again. She smiled, taking pleasure in watching me. When I was finally done peeing, my diaper had become very heavy. It was on the brink of leaking, but I had nothing more to let out. I looked at her, my eyes pleading. "You know the rule," she said sternly. "No changes at night." I begged with her, but she simply sent me away. I went back to my room, and lay down for what felt like forever until I finally fell asleep.

The next day, I woke up with a burning sensation. I winced in pain- a diaper rash. I waddled off to find the landlady, still asleep. "I really need a change now," I begged, nearly crying. "It burns." She groaned and rolled over. Apparently she didn''t rise at 8:00...
It turned out, she rose at 8:45. She finally gave me my change, applied a little cream on it, and chained me to the mat to dry off. After 20 minutes, she let me out and handed me a pull-up. "I''m late, so you have the day to yourself." Then she left.

I have nothing else to update, so that''s all for today.

Now, I understand that people want what they want, but isn't there a way to say that without putting someone else down? Profile after profile it's things like, "not inerested in being a mommy or any of that crap." Could you at least not make it sound so negative? Why is there such a double standard? Girls who wear are, "adorable little girls, who are probably the victims of childhood trauma." But for the guys, it's like, "Ewe gross!! Get away from me you FREAK!" Why? What the hell? How is it so horrible for us? For straight men, in the real world, this is treated the same as being gay. (Not that the way most straight men act towards gay dudes is in any way ok...). Why? Why do women react so adversly? I was rejected and abused by my mother, now all I want is to be held, and loved, and get that love I never really recieved as a child. Why does that make me the scourge of our society?

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Ever have one of those days that you just wake up and you "need" to be a BRAT??  Not sure why, but I'm having one of those days, lol.  I am in a good mood, but I have been ARGUING about everything today (I don't want to say that I'm being SNOTTY toward people, but maybe I am a little).  Guess it doesn't help that I'm stubborn anyways, lol.  Today is gonna be one of those days that I need to follow the saying, "If I don't have anything nice to say, it's best to say nothing at all".  From past experiences I know that I will feel bad about any "comments" that I make today.  I guess I just need a day that I get my way and I'm always right, but that doesn't make me a BRAT, does it??  Well, maybe a little  but what can I do, lol.  I am who I am.

At one time in my life I was very secretive, and therefore ashamed about my love of plastic pants and my ways of expressing it.

This has caused me some pain in the past, and I found myself becoming more introverted as well.

I srill do not openly share my thoughts about this subject, but because of forums like this I have found an outlet and a way to feel better about myself.

I am becoming more open (at least to myself) about my wanting to make this a part of my sexual life, and have learned it helps to make me better all the way around. The casting off of shame is a powerful thing.

As long as it is not illegal, does not hurt anyone else or yourself, does not degrade or hinder then there needs to be no guilty feelings about what you do in your personal life.

I bought two pacifiers when I was in NYC. Pink and Purple clear plastic ones. They are for 18 month olds, but I think they will work just fine of me. :)

 

I'm going to post pics of me and them today or tomorrow possibly and also a pic of the reason I really need to be put back into diapers sooner rather then later.

I get so excited when I know a "kids" show is coming to town (the next one for me will be Disney on Ice).  Thank god for my friends kids.  That way I get to take them to all the shows I want to go to without doing it by myself.  You know it would look a little strange to be there by yourself, especially when it's all parents with their kids.  I have to admitt that it would look worse for a single male in that setting, could you imagine what all the parents would be thinking.  My friends kids range from newborn to early teens (got all of the age groups / activities covered, lol).  I've been to the Wiggles (2 times), Nemo (Disney) on Ice, and Sesame Street Live.  I've always wondered if there was someone in the crowd that was like me.  I can't imagine that I'm the only one that takes kids to things like this (you have to admitt it's the perfect cover, lol).

It is officially day 5 of being sick, day 2 of antibiotics, and I AM MISERABLE!!!  I can't breathe, I can't sleep, and my body aches.  I have used up 3 boxes of kleenex and still find myself occasionally using my sleeve (EEWWWW!!).  I think if I sneeze one more time I might have my eyeballs shoot out of my head.  I had to sign away my life at the pharmacy just to get some cold medicine, and all that does is make me act "crazy".  Not to mention the fact that these pills are HUGE and make me want to GAG.  I have eaten enough chicken noodle soup that it might start leaking out of my ears.  All I've been doing is "resting", but that's far from how I feel.  First, I'm cold. . . gotta find a blanket.  Then I get too hot. . .  take the blanket off.  COUGH.  COUGH. COUGH.  Find some kleenex. . . gotta blow my nose.  Drink some orange juice. . . go to kitchen and fill the cup back up.  Watch something on tv that will entertain me.  Time to take ANOTHER pill. . . GAG.  Cold AGAIN. . . get blanket.  I just want to SCREAM!!!  I don't wanna be sick anymore!  If I never see another glass of orange juice, chicken soup, or pill again.  Now that I've used up the little bit of energy that I had, I need to go "rest" and take some more meds. 

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I guess this is my first post on this new blog. I don't know how much I will post here, but I guess random thoughts on the lifestyle.

I'm recently returned to my AB/DL desires, but unfortunately am not in a position to really act on them right now. There had been points in my life where I had a daddy, and spent most days and nights in diapers, but life got in the way and that had to end. Now I guess I am starting over, but I think that is fine. I have a better grasp out of what I want from the lifestyle. They are all big goals of course, wanting a daddy, wanting to be 24/7 in diapers, but I've been close before so I know it can happn again.

 

My first goal is getting a job. I've been actively hunting for 6 months in this economy with no luck. I still have hope though. Then eventually I will get a place of my own. First order of business after that, is a case of Abena's!

 

Ok well that all for now....see you around!

 

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The English meaning of this title is rather astounding in its truth.  Humans that need punishments and rewards held over them to be "good" people are not good people.  If we simply embrace love and understanding, there is no need for heaven and hell.

Sometime in 2000 or 2001, it's been so long I have forgot, I was required to take a bunch of councling I didn't need as part of the misswritten "standards of care" which all trans people become subject to the cruelty and protection of.  Sadly there were things at the time I really did need councling for, but where I live there was only one person locally who was certified, and well he was kinda a creep to be honest.  I wanted to open up to him (well not him but someone) about the fact that when I was about 4-5 everyone called me a tiny adult, and I probably had the maturity of a 10 year old or even an older kid, probably close to the intelligence of a 10 year old too.  And then how at the time I was talking to him I was 20ish and now truely felt about 6-7?  The one thing that he did discover was that he felt I was "too innocent" and he didn't understand it.  Actually he felt I was frightningly innocent, even though I seemed very schooled about the world.  Well over the years I was married, during the years I felt safe, I actually began to grow up, if only a little.  Many times now as I am close to 30, I feel like I am truely almost 9 or 10.

WTF

I think my mature empathy I have combined with my intelligence are the only two things which allow me to fake being an adult to this day.  However I never, ever feel like one.  I never see the world as one.  I still kinda believe in santa...I mean really...even though I know he can't exist...I know he does...  I still live in a world of unpredictable magic and faeries, and dispite my desperate attempts over the years to become my age, I just can't ever seem to.

Sometimes I think of going back to that creep and telling him he was right, I am too innocent for this world because for better or worse, I am cursed to be an eternal child.  I think too that as the years of my marrage went on, my husband began to see this more and more even though I made it VERY clear to him from the onset that I really was no more than 8 years old at the time.  I don't think he believed me until he had lived with me for a few years.  I think when he finally realized the truth, he couldn't handle it.

I better spell out what he couldn't handle though, you see, in our country and others, there are corruptions in our laws of conscent.  It makes several false assertions, one of which is that other people are a better judge of your own feelings, that your maturity is based on how long you have been alive and not on what you have experienced, not based on your pre-dispositions, and is not influenced by others.  I can see what these laws are trying to do, but out of fear and ignorance, they are written all wrong.  I believe that because of false impressions that these laws put into my husbands head, once he realized I was a child in an adult body, he began to feel like he was somehow an abuser because we had sexual contact.  When the opposite was true, our interactions had done nothing but mature me over the years VERY slowly.  He was a protective figure and had done nothing but make me feel safe. 

As I am writing this I am reminded of an Outer Limits episode, one in which there are two women, both married, and the longer they are with their husbands, the more their husbands begin to see through their outer cover and see that they are aliens.  When this truth is discovered and they see their wives for who they really are, for some reason they lose all the feelings of love they had felt for the person over the years...I always thought this was poor writing, but it seems humans really react this way.  How are humans able to abandon their loyalties so freely?  How are they able to forget everything good because of one thing bad which overwhelms them?  To me, anyone who acts this way is not human.  It is utterly lacking in compassion, lacking in empathy, lacking in...humanity.

I don't think I will ever be able to fully grow up...but at least I want to understand why before I die.

See people for who they are, do not let your senses get in the way the truth.  Don't get yourself in situations that you cannot handle!  Take this bit of advice to heart dear readers.

A letter to my

Special Friend

 

 Here I am, a 54 year young man looking to create memories of a life time, enjoying everything life is throwing my way. Growing, learning and expanding my limits seeking an adventure each day. Gaining wisdom, developing friendships, enjoying the company of others and letting life guide my way. I enjoy the simple things in life and value my family and friends more than anything else. As they are not only "related" to me, but also have had an active part in helping me, become me. Is that why I feel so blessed? Yes because I have great friends.

 

And now my "Special Friend", where are you? Where is that woman with an open mind? One that has allowed herself to be her own person? She seeks a man, but only as her equal, because she doesn't need him. She wants him because she desires his companionship, his honest heart, his willingness to share what's on his mind and even more important, listening to what she has to say. He cares, he shares, he explores and lets life happen, always making the best of it. Where is she?

 

My best friend is what we ALL are looking for and there is nothing wrong with that. Yes there is no doubt about it, above all else we are looking for the same thing and now we are getting "picky" about who we let into our life. That's the best thing that can happen because we have to take the time & effort to develop a friendship based on total honesty. With the right person in your life, easy to share. That's the key, first be honest with yourself and if you do that, you should have no problem being honest with the people you allow to share parts of your life with.

 

A woman that knows she is equal to any man is a smart woman. She won't allow herself to be talked down to or feel she has certain "duties" that is "woman's " work. She wants a very special man in her life that understands "her" for the woman she is now. She would want him and only him, because he makes her laugh, he knows her unspoken wishes, her wanting desires and his willingness to let her explore what she feels is most important to her. Without judgment he'll be there because he's your best friend.

 

It's important we are willing to share "anything". There are no limits if you truly trust this person, there can't be. An untold secret is something not shared, not explored, not developed, never allowed to become real. If it's important enough to be a secret, it becomes more important to share it! I can't be the only man to understand this, we all can't be that slow to learn the truth and what a woman really wants. She wants her best friend.

 

She has made her own way in life and values what she has worked for, but always willing to help a friend simply because she cares about you. She ask nothing in return as that is not her way, she dose it because it makes her happy. She is happy! Her smiling face reflects what's on the inside too, she's an open book to her friends, always giving and will the one you lean on the most. Why? Only if you are truly accepted in her circle of friends will you find out the answer to that question. Are you that kind of friend? Where is she?

 

Is there someone out there that feels the same way I do? There has to be, the world has become such a small place so I know she is out there! She likes the mountains, the beach, lakes, rivers, nature, animals, holding hands, spur of the moment getaways, grilling with friends and spending time with that "one" special friend. She spends her time with him because she know he's there for her. He's the one she can't wait to come home to because he feels the same about her. Their shared smiles only reinforce what they feel on the inside, the delight each other has brought to the relationship.

 

I am man looking for my female equal and won't settle for anything less and none of us ever should. We know who we are by this stage in life and have found that changing "Us" is just not in the cards. We are who we are now and the people we want to share our lives with has to "fit" into the life we've created. But as all things in life, "we" still need to be flexible as if you're truly seeking a life's partner, you have to be able to grow together. Willing to give all you are to just one person is a scary thing! Trust has to be at the top on the list! If you are real friend, always tell me the truth. Where is she?

 

We all have had our baggage and I have taken mine, checked it in on the train of no return. I don't need it and I won't allow it to be part of my life now, there are to many things to look forward too! Yes the past has made me into "me", but I have learned not to have any regrets. Just learn the lesson and grow from it! Mistakes are opportunities to learn and if you missed the lesson, you will do them over again and again until you "get it" and move forward. Education is forever and if you're not willing to learn you'll never be happy.

 

My Special Friend, where are you? If you're looking for a man that treats a lady, like a lady, here I am. Do you want someone cooking a meal together and enjoying it. Then here I am. Do you like motorcycle rides spur of the moment to no place in mind other than the adventure of being together? Here I am. Do you like spending a day at the beach, a night on the lake, live music and want someone to share it with? Here I am. Do you have something you enjoy that you want to share with somebody? Here I am.

 

I know you're out there my friend and I can't wait until the day I met you. I will know you the moment our eyes meet and I see that you feel the same way. That moment will change our lives forever! To have that person at your side for the rest of you life! To truly know that you are there for each other and the flames burn deep because you share a special bond, you love each other!

 

The circle will only be complete the day we met! Where is she?