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AB/DL mommies don't exist!

Stop fooling yourself or others. There isn't a woman in the world would even talk to a man with a thing for diapers unless there was a sizable pay check in it.

I'm tired of being a target for greedy scumbags.

Stop fooling yourself. After 16 years I just did.

And screw you creepy mahus too.


I know at least one lady who loves nappies and would be happy to look after a guy in one. 

There are probably many on here in fact. 

The question is what is there to one besides the nappy? is there romance and chemistry or are you just looking for a change and a quicky?

If it's the latter than I suppose your right, it's always going to be about the money.

Now don't you worry sweetie. This comment wasn't for your demographic, there will always be mommies out there looking for you.

Would you be willing to run the risk of being blackmailed by a so-called online "Mommie"? I think I'll just keep my fetish to myself, as I've always done.

You give a verry good point but, if there is a community of people out there just willing to offer a boob to suck on for fun ,  then I don't see why it has to be labled as so. surely if you find some friends with in this community then they could point you in the right direction

How do I delete a forum post. I should have never posted this crap.

I see that there are real AB/DL mommies that are online and devoted to their little babies.

Why is it people assume I am wanting paid for diaper sex or diaper phone sex or services or sex at all? I am not trying to pay for affection here. I refuse to and will never do that. Just looking for a friend to talk with. And let's face it people most guys in this scene are just too creepy, even for me, to try and talk with. Has been my experience anyways.

I just stop talking with other males here. And women are just too scared here I guess to talk. So that leaves scammers and hackers to converse with, which always turns out fun.

I only genuinely thought that, after finding out 16+ years ago I wasn't alone in this world, that there might be someone with matching desires of a mommy/baby relationship. Even If only just chatting online.

So I end up talking with myself.

I really just want for this post to just go away.

Well lets start off by saying your right money is all most sites are after when you are looking for a mommy.....Here is one in point ABDL Match this site pays woman to talk to guys to get them to pay for there memberships and they get a percentage but then you might find one in about 80% that are real I have been trying this site for awhile and found most say the same thing I have even used 2 different accounts on there with the same responces so save your money and stay away from that site.Now I am one of the lucky guys (and this is not to make others feel bad) but I have had a mommy/wife/best friend for years and they are out there but hard to find (and I believe there is someone for everyone) she knows I go one some of these site to see if there is any other mommys out there (I think she wants to find another mom to be apart of our click??? not sure) but I do know she asked me last year if I would like a 3 some but it has not happened yet and I think if she gets another mommy involved I will be extra punished My mommy/wife/best friend looks super hot in diapers but she loves to see me in them ...So don't give up I found mine by accident so just remember if you pay to play it will always be like that just be yourself

Yes they do exist. They just don't know it yet! I've never gotten into the age play aspect but I've had it offered to me by women that discovered I like to wear diapers and assumed I wanted to be babied. 

I go back to the days of DPF when it was produced on a mimeograph machine. In addition I've been a cross-dresser almost all of my life and between the two fetishes, I've had contact with hundreds of like minded people over the years. It's given me the opportunity to put a lot of them straight on finding a woman that accepts their fetish.

I have yet to talk to or correspond with a man in a successful relationship with a woman that met that woman through a contact service, whether it was a club sort of thing like Diaper Mates or Craig's List or any place else where you post an ad or answer one. And AB's are by far the worst at chasing off the woman that join. So many women drop out in fear when they get inundated with requests to be a mommy when their profile clearly shows that is not their interest.       

But there's always the exception. I know of one woman that had a 'little one' of her own and advertised for playmates for him and she didn't charge a thing. Again, that is the exception. Almost all "mommies" advertising their service are doing so as a business. I've seen rates from 50 for an evening to 500 for a weekend and that was quite a few years ago. I'm sure by now there are some much higher.

Here's the advice I give to anyone with a fetish that is looking for a relationship and not just a weekend fling: Start the relationship first. Show her who you are and why she should consider you a 'keeper.'

Then at some time when it becomes serious, broach the subject in a roundabout way. If you do it right even if the relationship doesn't work out, you'll have a friend that shares your secret and an amazing number of women seem to like that. In addition, if you nurture the friendship, you'll have an agent of sorts. Among themselves, women talk about sex as much as men do, if not more, and are actually more explicit. So they know who among their friends is likely to be acceptable to the things you want to do.

Here's what works for me at my age. When I meet a woman I'm attracted to and start dating, almost always at some point after a few dates they'll somehow bring up the subject of marriage. These are all mature women that are either widows or divorcees and they want to have some idea how serious you are about building a relationship that could potentially turn out to be permanent. Generally I make a very good impression on a woman and she'll make a comment like, "How come you haven't remarried?"

What she's fishing for is to see if you've ruled out ever marrying again or are really gay or whatever it happens to be that you seem like a great guy but are available. So my answer is, "Too old, too poor, and too kinky for all the women I've met." Then I'll try to change the subject and let them stew on it. The "too old" part is meaningless because we're usually near the same age. "Too poor" will cull out the ones that are looking for a man to pay their way on cruises and vacations. And the "too kinky" piques their curiosity beyond belief. Some will deman an immediate explanation but most want to think about it first. Eventually within a few days or so they'll find some way to ask for an explanation. When they do, I laugh it off. "Don't worry, I'm not into whips or chains or pain or anything like that. I've just got a history that goes back to the way my mom raised me that some women like and some don't." Then I change the subject again.

Each time you leave them with unanswered questions, their minds will come up with possibilities that are way more unacceptable than a man that likes to wear lingerie and wet diapers. So when you finally do give them the details, it's almost always a relief to them that you weren't the pervert that they'd imagined. Then I ask if they really want to know or just want something to tease me about and every time we wind up in an intimate discussion where I get to explain how my mom kept me dressed as a girl and in diapers for most of my childhood. By the time I'm done, they realize I'm harmless and that there was really no other way for me to turn out considering the circumstances that were beyond my control.

The woman I'm currently seeing bought me lingerie for Christmas a couple of weeks back and the first time she spent the night with me at my place she told me before we went to bed that if I was more comfortable wearing a nightie that I should and she'd like to borrow one. And this is a woman I met at church.

So again, build the relationship first. Be the person she wants to have a relationship with and in today's world, most women are well aware that almost all men have some sort of kink they'll have to accept. It's part of the package and the more the whole package has to offer, the easier it will be to get the acceptance you want.

Not completely true. Some only exist for the paycheck that comes with it. Those that do this for free are rare, and don't normally talk. 

I still hope that the right one is out there for me. We will cross paths at some point and it will be worth the wait and than some. Always be hopeful.

I honestly think girls are scared to talk about being in diapers or w.e, i mean girls really shouldnt be afraid, Diapers go together more with women/girls than they do with boys/ guys

Have heart my anonymous friend!

AB/DL Mommies do exist though as someone has already said they probably don't know it yet. And unfortunately as its been pointed out the vast majority ABDL mommies that are out in the open are professionals requiring payment for their services. Though they provide a much needed service in our community it can be depressing for ABs (especially male) to meet someone with a genuine connection not tied to money. 

But again they do exist! You just have realize that the chances of meeting one specifically through sites like this are slim. Real AB mommies ( IMHO) are created not born. Simply meaning that unlike yourself who have possibly been an AB most of your life (possibly born that way) AB Mommies are usually turned on to the idea of AB motherhood thru a connection to a AB . These are regular women who have found love and a real connection through their relationships with an AB. It may not seem like it sometimes but just in general plenty of women crave that kind of connection and intimacy with their partner you just have to meet and show it to them.

It seems like the idea of  a woman who was "born" a AB Mommy or has a natural desire for diaper,baby things,mothering...ect  is rare.  Most women simply have actual children/babies to satisfy their maternal needs so there is little reason for them to involve themselves in an ABDL relationship. Again, I'm sure they exist but you'll always have better luck dealing with real woman and putting them on to your ABDL leanings. And would really want to meet a woman that's only interest in you for your shared fetish??Id imagine she'd be just as creepy as some of the guys in our community!

So long story long get out there and start connecting with regular women. Go on dates, bond, build a relationship and when the trust is there gradually bring out your AB side. If the love and bond is there you'll have yourself not just AB Mommy but a partner and friend for life!

good luck to you ^_^


If They Do exist..Woud One just ONE contact Me?..Please?

I think there are good points here. 

When I first joined this site a lady messaged me, seemed nice and interested, she wanted to know some things and we exchanged skype.

After this there was notning. Weirdly though I had all messages from all different mommies coming through on my skype which I never bpught into ironically. 

It was soon after I learned this lady (mummy mel on here) I think before her profile changed was caught out. 

She was gathering pics of folk too we have no idea where they were going. 


I am fortunate in that I don't really want a mommy type of affection although it could be partially fun, just a friend. I have been single most of my life and am still a virgy lol. 


I accepted a long time ago that even folk in pur own community probably wont ever accept me as a whole entire person with different interests. 


Just be who you are if something is meant to happej it will friend. 

Sorry to hear this happened to you.'re wrong because...I exist. Perhaps I'm not the typical thought-of type of Mommy person though.

I'm a Mommy, a gentle sort of Mommy, and am very, very interested in ABDL, age regression, and CGL relationships, regardless of gender. I would never, ever request someone pay me to be able to care for them; however, I would also not interact like that, sexually or nonsexually, as a Mommy with strangers or people I'm not romantically connected with in some way. It's very much a type of intimacy for me even if there are no sexual tones.

I do not consider myself to be a Dominant or Domme sort of person though. I sort-of feel like being an ABDL Caregiver can certainly teeter into positive, gentle servitude. So, perhaps that's why I don't see the benefit in asking for payment for play? It just isn't playtime for me, and it isn't just "a scene" to me. I just want to care for someone and love on them, treating them as if they are fragile and delicate, naive and pure. Though, again, only a serious partner and not strangers that claim to share my interest.

If I exist then I assume others like me must exist, but I must admit that I do, indeed, feel like I'm a bit of an alien. I know other females that claim to be Mommies exist because they are active on Littlespace Online, but I'm not sure how seriously devoted they are to the dynamic like I am.

well i agree that there are a lot of mommies out there that are pretty much pay2play now however there are ones out there that don't do that we have all established this quite well. now see anonymous to rightfully debate you on this i'm going to say this. there are people who are into diapers whether it's the ab part or dl part or both that are honestly only interested in the sexual aspect of it. not relationships, not development of, not in terms ltr. more or less a one time nsa. you are not of this denomination, you are a part of the development denomination that requires some sort of relationship to be attached. not every mommy out there is wanting cash and true it is your preference to not have to pay to be babied. there are many and i do stress many different dynamics of all kinds out there, the pay2play is one of them. may not be your bag, may not be my bag, may not be the bag for most littles and dl's here, however it is still the bag for some. knocking it is just rude and to say abdl mommies don't exist is a untrue statement because you are so over generalizing your diaper is about to leak with the bs on that assertion. i know it seems rough, i know it's hard to find, but as with anything worth having in life you have to wait for and work towards it. now it would be nice if the search wasn't so lengthy and full of obstacles like mommies that keep bugging you to pay2play, distance and what not, but then would it really be worth all the effort? in conclusion, just realize that everyone has a different particular taste in all dynamics and sometimes it does spill over to the other side, but that does not mean you should throw a tantrum like this over it and say something that is far from the truth. be patient, work towards it, wait for it and when you get it, never let go of it because it'll always be worth it.

I think most guys I've talked to that are abdl are blow and go types. Many want very intense stuff on the first meeting and aren't into emotional attachment. If a woman wants to provide this for cash, while I don't really condone it, you should be grateful. 

We are not fleshy sex toys. If you want five minutes without a relationship go into the bloody toilet and stop wasting our time. 

Perhaps if more guys did this instead of posting pictures of their George bush on internet sites, the amount of girls on this site will improve 

that is another thing i agree with babyaya, some here are either too desperate or extreme and flashy, that it is a turn off. not to mention i have seen and experienced myself the moment they see you're female they immediately start asking you to baby them without even bothering to read your bio in your profile. just because you see a female in this community does not immediately mean they are mommies, some are just littles or dl's. but this too is a turnoff, kinda why i have been on and off this site over the years i have been here. i remember when i first joined and omg, literally 14 messages the first day here of being asked to be a mommy. even though it's always been stated in my bio that i am a little, not a caregiver

This useless website is literally all a scam

Well you have to  remember the ratio was 25 to 1 at minimum men to women. So it's going to find someone is difficult. Plus they may be doing same role that you are.

Plus you have to remember is how much harassment they get from people that don't understand how to talk to others. Or understand what the word no means or leave them alone.

Yes there are people out there that play a role and do it for money. I can't fault them because most of them were upfront about what they do. Yes their are people out there let's try to scam people involved in this with leading people on for money.

But you can't be overly desperate on finding someone. Because that's who the scammers look for an easy mark.

They are out there to just few and far between and they may not being near you. Or what they're looking for they may be looking for something very specific which is it you.

yea and there's that too. preferences limit choices. it's the main reason i search for a daddy over a mommy, the mommy's that aren't pay2play are rather strict and more towards the hardcore aspect of dynamic. i'm softcore in this dynamic aspect. i don't like humiliation, harsh punishment or pain for that matter. i'm more on the positive reinforcements, punishment when necessary and fits the trouble, do not like extreme or over the top but most here do, and i don't like being painfully paddled. trying to find that in either a mommy or daddy is rather hard, esp if by local means. my choices are far limited due to my preferences and it really sucks

Okay. Into the fray! Mommies do exist. I know, I found mine, or I should say, she found me. It took almost 30 years and a lot of perseverance.

If mommyTawny is a real AB mommy, I'll eat my shorts. I invite her contact me so we can talk about it. :)


I think most guys I've talked to that are abdl are blow and go types. Many want very intense stuff on the first meeting and aren't into emotional attachment. If a woman wants to provide this for cash, while I don't really condone it, you should be grateful. 

We are not fleshy sex toys. If you want five minutes without a relationship go into the bloody toilet and stop wasting our time. 

Perhaps if more guys did this instead of posting pictures of their George bush on internet sites, the amount of girls on this site will improve 

 While I agree that the depravity of guys into this fetish is obscene, you also must understand why they are into the fetish in the first place

This can usually be attributed to abandonment issues or a lack of nurturing when they were young. So for them, and me, it's hard to trust someone like that, not only is it hard for them, in most cases they don't even know how to interact or socialize normally because they have such a hard time trusting people

But once they do they become extremely emotionally attached/dependent on the cg 

Not a psychologist btw, just thoughts

They are rare but they are out there and I don' mean the pay to play ones. I have talked to a few different couples that the woman is a mommy. They are out there, just be patient, be kind, be sincere and stop making an ass out of yoursef. Get to know someone e as a person and not just a fetish object and you may have better luck finding what you want or something you didn' realize you wanted.

I was so blessed to have been married for 30 years to the most wonderful wife/mommy in the world! During the day, I was her man and provided for our family. At night, and when the children were at sleep overs, relatives, or camp, I was her baby. She nursed me several times every night and in the morning before we got up for work. She kept me in diapers every night and I was expected to be her baby in all respects. When the kids were at camp and relatives, I'd take off of work and she kept me as her exclusively breastfed baby for the two weeks. It happened every summer and sometimes during the Christmas season. She bought me pretty onesies, plastic panties, and paci.

So how did the relationship start? As a normal relationship. The age play was no introduced until after a year or so. You must first show her that you are capable of supporting her and a future family. And, show here that you are not a freak. And, I let her take it to each deeper level. That way, she was in control and felt safe and comfortable. The problem with most people here is that they assume any woman just wants to jump in and change your diapers. Not going to happen. A woman wants a man who will provide for her first and foremost! She wants a man who knows how to treat a lady as a lady, not objectify her. She is a dynamic person, with thoughts and desires of her own. Most guys on here are selfish, self-centered turds. They are obnoxious and run a lady off before she gets to know who you are.