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DiaperMates Chat Room - Seriously?

Regarding the DiaperMates' Chat Room:

I only speak to those who can hold an intelligent conversation other than nappies/diapers or AB stuff.

I have perhaps 3 or 4 people who I chat with from day-to-day and they treat me as a person with respect and vice-versa.

There are many SICK people on this site and they should be investigated by Admin.


More so when they ask me advice on:

"How should I treat my teenage daughter who I caught wearing nappies?"

or

"I make my 4-year-old wear nappies like I do"


Seriously! That's fucking gross and it's on the borderline of paedophilia!

Many people on this site chat only to have a quick jerk off. And NOT to socialise. 


Members message me asking:

"Are you nappied baby?"

"What panties are you wearing?" 

"Do you want Daddy to play with your pussy?"

"Move to America and live with me?"

"Go on Skype I want to watch you shit yourself!" etc.


There are so many DUMB people on this site that they can't tell the simple difference between Reality and Fantasy.

I just simply BLOCK anyone who tries it on with me.

Admin needs to crack down on the fake members and FAST!

yea good luck on this, i was on a similar crusade myself a few months ago. the admin doesn't care in all honesty

I maintain two websites myself that are similar to DiaperMates so I can understand how overwhelming it is when people ask you to determine what is right and what is wrong behavior. A lot of these people do come off as crude, but a lot of them are also talking happily together about these exact same topics. They are rude to be prompting you so boldy, assuming that you also want a quick relief session here, but they aren't reporting each other when they find one another who has mutual interest in the same conversational goal.

I think it's perverted and completely wrong to discuss biological children and I do feel like that is a line that should not be allowed to cross, but, again, if those statements are not reported in the moment then it's hard to figure out who said what what and when without it simply coming down to she-said, he-said fights. The admin isn't a mind-reader and doesn't have all day to sit in the chat, waiting for someone to say something vulgar.

I do click "report" and also "block" when these things are said to me. Sometimes they are said in a confusing way though. Perhaps I think too purely of people. A couple of months back a woman from the UK had an hour long conversation with me before I realized that she was looking for sexual gratification through hopes of me telling her what to do with her child and accepting what her claims were about her child being forced back into nappies as well out of her convenience versus medical need. When I scolded her and told her that her fantasies were not of the ABDL community (forcing a child to do something for your own sexual gratification is NOT okay; the "A" in "ABDL" is ADULT and NOT fantasies-of-biological-children) and that she should be ashamed of herself for trying to lead people into such a horrendous topic then she just went quiet. Did I expect the admin to read an hour long chat log though to decipher what was going on? No.

I've also emailed the admin personally about a child predator I genuinely found and reported to the authorities. The admin responded promptly and in a manner that was extremely acceptable. I won't discuss it further though due to the nature of the situation. The admin obviously cared though.

It's also immensely difficult to find a good moderator, much less a handful, that are willing to help out for free, consistently, and through very unpleasant situations where they have to take a lot of unhappy finger-pointing. Oddly enough, a lot of people who want to become moderators through one of my communities often have no clue what any of this is about and are simply wanting to do it so that they become "known". Right now I have a site that's just about to hit 3 years old and I only really have two very good, consistent, reliable moderators that are worth double their weights in gold to me. I've gone through...oh, probably close to 15 or 20 moderators at this point and denied just as many applicants who just didn't "get it". Good help is sincerely hard to find.


I like DiaperMates a lot though. I don't particularly care for admins/mods who choose to heavily monitor their private chat goingons, you know? 

All in all, I too like DiaperMates. But, I do wish we could get Baby Bauk out of bed!

what other sites? I may want to join

Hi my name is tommie.  

I hear you. Like yourself I only chat with only a handful of people. Usually within a few messages from some, it goes into pathetic. It's obvious many are just acting in their own self-interest. I can't help but laugh. For example, here's a message from diapersrule2612 a few minutes ago: "do you like s e x"

Lol.....after I told diapersrule2612 to get lost, he sends me this: u get lost u ugly c u n t

first let me say that I agree with what has been stated thus far. I don't blame anyone for expecting more of this membership but we all know it ain't going to happen right wrong or otherwise. It is unrealistic to think that the admin should be doing a better job or that moderators need to stay on top of it all enforcing whatever every member deems as inaapropriate.

Know these things:

It appears that the original site is written in PHP a programming language that the admin may have little or no knowledge of.

The site is anything but intuitive and results are all over the road depending upon which browser you are using and your individual settings.

The site feeds into a central database which I might guess is also outdated, poorly designed and a challenge to maintain.

I seriously doubt that the site is managed by anyone other than the admin who calls in help where needed.

Those who pay for premium membership probably recieve very little for their money in terms of functionallity given that the basic site leaves so much to be desired.

The site and its database no doubt run on linux and if not up to date or properly secured probably resembles a block of swiss cheese full of security holes.

Because the site is not intuitive there is teally no excuse for not updating the FAQ or adding a tutorial to help members navigate the site and its available features. I get tired of members saying what map and how do I find it?

All that being said, I doubt all this can be blamed on the admin. I would be very surprised if this site were able to monetize its operation and depends heavily on producing revenue from links to its sister sites which I have heard other members complain of because of pow er hungry admins who kick you just because they can.

All that being said, I personally would be happier if some of the members actually had a brain.

A desciption of "here to make friends with those who have same interests" smacks of retard. Same interests as what? We all know we share diapers in common why not give members something to work with?

And yes, many here to jack off by simply starting a chat with a total stranger. They often start with a question that they would already know the answer to if they bothered to read your profile first. Lame, self centered and ignorant.

I for one think that if they were able to offer private sections of the site to members willing to pay for the upgrade they could allow pictures of diapers filled with poop which I think are very pretty as disgusting and sick as some may think it is, but we have to stop thinkng that everyone's issues can be resolved by pitching a bitch to the admin.

As a society we all feel that there should be a law to halt anything that offends anybody. At what point does that final rule really make us no different than any other communist led country? 

Dont complain to the admin and whine to the membersip in general. Work with the admin to at least help him achieve realistic goals that we all benefit from, or better yet offer to buy the domain if you think you can do so much better.

 

 

 

 

 

I hear you. Like yourself I only chat with only a handful of people. Usually within a few messages from some, it goes into pathetic. It's obvious many are just acting in their own self-interest. I can't help but laugh. For example, here's a message from diapersrule2612 a few minutes ago: "do you like s e x"

 I totally agree with you Jessica.

Unfortunately, there are going to be idiots everywhere you go. ABDL sites are no exception. You just have to filter through all the people who have the IQ of a brain dead first grader., and find the people who are looking to socialise, rather than an excuse to slay the dragon. 

i am right there with you, if you like to talk about philosophy and the cosmos, or things beyond our comprehension that we can just speculate on, or even just chat for the sake of chatting. i am always around. hope all is going well :)

you can add "baby are you horny?" to that list someguy just asked me that keep in mind i'm a dude damn it 

Why would you complain about someone like that? You're either being trolled or you're riling yourself up over something inconsequential. How is being approached by what you perceive to be antagonistic bothering anyone but you.

Just ignore them if it's so tedious.

By the way, what kinda diapers do you like? I'm only asking because this is a diaper fetish site. 

@Galen - "I'm only asking because this is a diaper fetish site."

Seriously, people like you are so thick minded!

Yes, this is a "Diaper Fetish Site" - But just like on other ABDL community websites: do you seriously expect, that, when you first chat to someone; man or woman, that you ask them if they're diapered? 

Or explain the disgusting dirty talk to that person; when it comes to changing them, playing with her pussy or his cock etc.

Only people with half-a-brain and who are only seeking a quick online wank do that!


If any member has any hope of meeting up with someone in the REAL WORLD from this damn website or any other ABDL website; local or not, then basic intro chats MUST be vanilla and be that of common sense and talk about common hobbies.

There's MORE to Life than diapers/nappies. And I'll say the same to any other person with their own different sexual fetish within BDSM

I mean, would you go up to a man or woman in the street or in the bar and say: "I'm in the ABDL fetish, would you be my mommy/daddy?" er, no, you fucking wouldn't.

The good thing about being online with the ABDL fetish is that, yes, you can chat with like-minded people.

But you do NOT have to be a direct pervert to them.

Jesus! Just wait until you get to know that person; and if you both are like-minded and dirty in the bedroom? Then let it rip between you both.


Over the years people have bitched and cried because they STILL haven't found their mommy or daddy/lover. 

Well, it all comes down to how YOU first approach that person and if you have the decency to be a gentleman or lady to that man or woman.

I hope you understand what I've stated. 

If not? Then you and people like you are doomed to be lonely in your diapers for the rest of your life. 

People who are perverts or act like perverts on the first few messages in the Chat Room, when they begin chatting to men and women, are the long life losers.

Understood!?

Yes we all understand Miz Delight.  I agree with Galen. Your rant is inconsequential. No one cares. If you are so unhappy with the sick perveted membership please move on and stop trying to hawk your websites.

Piggins

 

Yes we all understand Miz Delight.  I agree with Galen. Your rant is inconsequential. No one cares. If you are so unhappy with the sick perveted membership please move on and stop trying to hawk your websites.

Piggins


Actually Piggins, people DO care otherwise they wouldn't reply to my Thread...would they?

It seems that Piggins doesn't care about how our ABDL Community is portrayed in the Vanilla world.

Perhaps Piggins is a supporter of the perverts on how they disgustingly treat men and women. 

The truth hurts doesn't it?

People within our community would like to shut their eyes and cover their ears and ignore what goes on online in our fetish; not just on this website, but on others as well.


Thank God for DiaperMates.com!

I say this because at least one can HAVE a Voice!

If I directed my opinions, even in a diplomatic way, say on Daily Diapers, those bastard MODS/Admins would crucify me for speaking up for the little people; people who agree with my views, people who are blunt and opinionated but get BANNED because others believe our world is nice and cosy; no it's not!


As for me personally. 

Yes, I'm on DM and other ABDL sites to promote my eBooks and Website...wouldn't you? 

At least I'm being honest about it. 


Now, apart from what we've all been discussing regarding the perverts; there are many jealous people within our fetish; men and women.

I'm trying to make a success with my life through my creative abilities and talent.

Others have slagged me off. 

I expect that. Others have been supportive; even if they haven't paid for my ABDL eBooks. 

I'm here to stay for a VERY long time to come within our ABDL Community.


So you Piggins, and people like you; my jealous haters and dumb critics who can't write a decent ABDL story and have nothing to back-up their criticism towards me; better get use to me speaking my mind and opinions.

When I voice them, it doesn't mean I'm right ALL the time. But at least I'm not sitting on the fence and ignoring something like the Pervert Situation. 

I rest my case!

OMG DOES IT NEVER END? It takes little or no knowledge to learn how to use the block botton which several members have already pointed out to you. For gosh sakes, even though I have agreed to everything you have said can you simply not understand how to use the block button and spare all of the rest of us your whining and complaining about people who dont meet your expectations? Get over yourself and stop blaming the world around you for not living up to your standards. There will always be members here who start a chat with you by asking about your diaper brand or something that will no doubt offend you in some way. Yes, there are a lot of self centered jerk offs on this site and thats not going to change either. Stay Go either way I dont really care just please stop whining. If you want a date or a face to face join match.com.

Idiot. You just don't get it do you?

You're just a simply-minded loser. 

I've blocked many on this site including you. 

Have a nice life lol

if anyone wants a decent chat about general things besides diapers... I am here

I am also somewhat unsatisfied with local chat. Almost every time I login, some "daddy" will appear and try to recruit me as their little. Not that I wouldn't enjoy being little, but they just think, they can control my life over chat in 5 minutes. Really creepy... :-/

 

I am also somewhat unsatisfied with local chat. Almost every time I login, some "daddy" will appear and try to recruit me as their little. Not that I wouldn't enjoy being little, but they just think, they can control my life over chat in 5 minutes. Really creepy... :-/

 

Get use to it! There's many creeps on this site and on other ABDL websites...

I have found the chat is more quiet recently. I havent herd or seen any folk for some months now which is diheartning but hey ho. I know what people mean about the chat, there has been one or two occasions I have had to tell people to bog off, if I play it is merely only by the by and shouldnt be expected all the time.